This is Tiger Woods:
This is Tiger Woods’s stunning Swedish wife Elin, the mother of his children:
This is Jaime Grubbs, one of the nine women Tiger Woods is reportedly sleeping with on the side:
Really, Tiger? Isn’t she sort of… below par, compared to your wife?
Of course, this is old news to everyone. The story has completely taken over TV, radio, newspapers and blogs for the past week, attracting more coverage than Obama’s new Afghanistan policy, and I think there are two reasons for this:
1) He has managed to keep his reputation squeaky-clean, almost boring, throughout his entire career so far
2) His wife is CONSIDERABLY hotter than the women he is sleeping with.
So what was he thinking?
The only reason I care about this story is because I have met this guy so many times– the guy that compartmentalizes his women. The guy that puts the “marriage material” over to one side, and the sex material on the other, and never mixes the two.
Only problem is, you do eventually have to sleep with your wife, and it’s preferable if you can limit yourself to only sleeping with your wife. So if you’ve gone ahead and married the pristine, virginal image of your ideal wife despite the fact that she happens to fall completely outside of your sexual attraction zone, you’re kind of in a pickle, aren’t you?
This phenomenon is not new. Freud called call it the “Madonna/Whore” complex, defined as a psychological condition that develops
when the sufferer is raised by a cold and distant mother. Such a man will often court women with qualities of his mother, hoping to fulfill a need for intimacy unmet in childhood. Often, the wife begins to be seen as mother to the husband—a “Madonna” figure—and thus not a possible object of sexual attraction. For this reason, in the mind of the sufferer, love and sex cannot be mixed, and the man is reluctant to have sexual relations with his wife, for that, he thinks subconsciously, would be as incest. He will reserve sexuality for “bad” or “dirty” women, and will not develop “normal” feelings of love in these sexual relationships. (source: Wikipedia)
Now, I’m not sure about all the Oedipal references, the “cold and distant mother,” but I do know this complex is alive and kicking among a frightening number of emotionally challenged men, and I feel really sorry for them because it poses such a huge dilemma.
It’s the ultimate chauvinism– women are either “virgins” or “whores.” There is no room for psychological complexity, for a woman that is at once your wife and your friend and the mother of your kids and your sexual partner. Tiger probably lost attraction to Elin as soon as she became a wife and mother, as men around the world repeatedly bang their heads against walls trying to figure out how he managed to blow it with a woman like her.
I’m not worried about Elin– she’ll get a 30 gazilian dollar divorce settlement and find someone who cherishes her. But poor Tiger will be sentenced to a lifetime of homewrecking, celebrity chasing skanks, and he can’t go crying to his “cold and distant” momma.
The ultimate tragedy.
What do you guys think– Madonna/whore complex, or rich, egotistical athlete?